In a recent group setting, I showed an interview clip of a senior leader taking on a controversial issue with an aggressive and seemingly positive approach. 70% viewed the leader positively, with comments including brilliant and courageous. The other 30% were having none of it or him, suggesting he was arrogant and condescending and at fault for the root problem.
What a great reminder that not everyone sees issues or us in the same light. Leaders are cautioned to beware the image in the mirror. Our words of wisdom, grand visions, and even our well-intended positive actions are subject to filtering and interpretation. While it’s not about votes in a popularity contest, it is essential to understand the view on you and your ideas. After all, you’re dependent upon others to carry your ideas forward.
Objects in the mirror may not be as grand, all-knowing and inspiring as they appear.
There seem to be several lessons in your vignette, Art! Good one! One of the take aways might be that regardless of what you do as a leader, a large portion of people won’t like it. Get over it! On the other hand, internal perspective often doesn’t the perspective of others (i.e. awareness).
Cheers,
Todd Ordal
Thanks, Todd! Yes, I never miss an opportunity to share a compound message. I agree. It’s never a goal to please everyone, and in fact, it’s impossible. It is good to remain grounded in how you are being received. Thanks for sharing your wisdom! -Art