After too many conversations to count with talented individuals in their late thirties or early forties that are asking, “Is this it?” about their professional lives, I am compelled to offer some advice for their leaders.  I’ll start with: “Wake Up and Pay Attention!”

Professionals in this age range are at a critical juncture in their careers.  They are experienced, hard working and confident in how to contribute.  They’ve made and learned from many of the mistakes of youth and they’ve begun to develop something so critical for organizational success: wisdom based on experience.  They’ve also generally decided what motivates them, what they like in a leader, the type of work that they are best at, and that life is too short to spend time in the wrong place or working for the wrong person. 

The common theme that I am hearing in my discussions with these talented and motivated professionals is frustration over the inability of their superiors to leverage their skills and experience.  It’s not a whining theme…it’s an “I am capable and experienced and want to be treated as such and contribute more” lament.  It is very different from the whining that many people engage in about the person that they work for. 

Comments include (paraphrased):

Instead of the challenges that we talked about when I interviewed, I jumped in to fill a gap in operations and now I can’t get out of this mundane role.

The charisma of the CEO during the interview process is gone now that I’m an employee.  His general response to every idea or suggestion is anger.

They didn’t need someone with my experience, they needed a college graduate or someone fresh out of the service that wouldn’t know any better about constantly having orders barked at them. 

There’s no reward in this work.

I’ve been doing the same basic things for 20 years…it’s boring and I can’t take it any more.

They need to decide if they are going to use me or they will lose me.

My life is racing past me but my career is stuck in futile mode.

I kept offering to help on the big issues and I was told I was overstepping my boundaries so I gave up.

And so on.

The Leader’s Suggestion List for Managing 30 and 40-Somethings:

  • Recognize and leverage the growing need of people in this age range to contribute at an increasing level.  Figure out how to do this and watch the accomplishment list grow.
  • Design positions and assignments that are challenging and provide these professionals the latitude they need to succeed.
  • I’ve noticed that after 15 years of working, many professionals develop a hunger for learning.  Feed this hunger through professional development and even better, feed the hunger and leverage the experience by asking these professionals to teach in the organization.
  • Work on your self-awareness and emotional intelligence.  Frankly, you shouldn’t treat anyone by typically responding with anger as was cited above, and especially don’t treat experienced professionals like that and expect to keep them. 
  • Provide opportunities for mid-career professionals to mentor younger employees.
  • A few months after hiring an experienced professional, sit down and genuinely seek their input and perspectives on issues and improvements.  Let them take ownership of some of their ideas and drive the improvements.
  • Use judo on the situation and let the individuals set their own stretch goals. 
  • Tune in to an individual’s mid-life career objectives and work together to develop a program that supports achievement of those objectives.
  • Match mid-career professionals with both early-career and nearing retirement employees to collaborate on problem solving and project development.  The mixing of the generations is beneficial for all parties involved.


The Bottom-Line for Now:

As a leader, you cannot afford to allow the best, brightest and most-experienced employees to feel detached and unmotivated.  I suspect that more often than not, you as the leader have a hand in creating this problem, and you definitely can help solve it.  It’s time to sit down, talk and most importantly, listen to what your thirty and forty-somethings have to say.  These are the leaders in your immediate future.  Don’t come up short just when these talented professionals are ready to pay off.