Don’t Misread the Millennials…Or A Coping Strategy for Managers

A broadcast titled: “The Millennials Are Coming” on 60 Minutes a few weeks ago has sparked a fair amount of water cooler conversation.  The theme of this excellent piece is that as these well coddled, got a trophy just for showing up, computer-literate and text happy young adults (born after 1980) enter the workforce, they bring with them an attitude that emphasizes lifestyle and friends over punching a clock, and working hard at a nine to five job. At least some in older generations are crying “foul” and suggesting that this generation is lazy, impossible to manage and have their priorities all wrong.

Are they and do they?

While every generation is distinct, this one definitely sees things through the eyes of an upbringing that is unique in our history and maybe in human history.  Hovered over by well meaning but often over-bearing “Helicopter Parents” since birth, many in this generation (certainly not all) have been sheltered from some of the more difficult realities of life.  They’ve been praised for just showing up at everything from soccer to school, and at the same time have had access to money, merchandise and technology at radically different levels than any generation prior.  The parents have fought most of the battles, holding teachers and coaches everywhere accountable to being grateful that little Johnny or Suzie decided to show up in their class or play on their team.

The impact of this upbringing is now manifesting itself in the workplace, as more buttoned down Generation Xers or younger Boomers are dealing with a wave of people that seemingly don’t have the work ethic and willingness to pay dues that allegedly we all must bring to our professional lives.  Looked at through the eyes of those that are not so far away in age, but miles away in work philosophy, it’s easy to start applying labels like lazy and spoiled.  However, before we indict this group of leaders that the demographic numbers indicate that we surely will hand over the reins of power to, it’s important to try and understand what makes them tick.

Just a Few Millennial Priorities and Characteristics:

  • I want to work at something that I enjoy and if I don’t, I will go somewhere else.
  • I want to work when I want to, and I don’t need to punch a clock to do that.  I value schedule flexibility very much.
  • I want to work in an environment that I like and one that offers ample activity and stimulation.
  • I want to work surrounded by the technology that has been with me forever. Don’t touch my iPod, and yes, I text constantly.  Restrict my access to the Internet.  Hardly!
  • Don’t expect me to punch a clock and sit around if you don’t have something for me to do.  I’m going to workout.
  • I have tattoos and piercings and I might cover them up if I have to, but they reflect who I am, so get over it.

Interestingly, minus the bullets on piercings and technology, you could substitute Baby Boomers, and almost to a letter, the priorities fit.  Pity those poor Generation X mangers that are struggling to keep things moving while all around them are more interested in flexibility, freedom and their 8:30 a.m. Yoga Class.

What’s a Manager to Do?

1. First, get over it.  Adjust your attitude. Lose the thought that these individuals are lazy.  That is a gross misinterpretation.  Don’t confuse having a philosophy that espouses and strives for lifestyle and flexibility over indentured servitude for the characteristic of laziness.

2. Get over it, part 2.  You will not undo something that took the parents the better part of two decades to create.

3. Use judo on the situation. Not literally (although it may be tempting!)…just metaphorically.  If you want to tap into the remarkable creativity, passion and technological know-how of this generation, you are going to have to embrace and accommodate elements of their lifestyle.  Offering flexibility doesn’t mean that work won’t get done, and in fact it may get done better.  It will just happen in a different way and at a different pace.

4. Judo part 2 and more on flexibility. It’s only been a decade or so since tightly wound organizations and managers experimented with and finally accepted that people would work even if they weren’t in a cubicle every day suffering with their counterparts under our watchful and omniscient eyes.  We will have to adapt, because we need the know-how and capabilities of this generation.

5. Become a coach. Recognize that this is the most coached and coach-able generation in history.  They’ve had coaches since soccer at the age of 5.   If you cannot figure out how to leverage their coach-ability, you are in the wrong job.

6. Coaching, part 2: Stock up on trophies and dispense them with a lot of praise.  This generation runs on excitement and feedback.

The bottom-line for now
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My own experience has been that in spite of looking at the world through different eyes, the millennials are smart, capable of hard-work (on their terms) and a few years wiser than most of us. Frankly, I think they have the priorities in the right order and the rest of us need to learn from them.  It doesn’t mean we don’t compete to win, that we don’t put our all into what we believe in.  But it does mean we are going to do it on our terms.  If this sound like anarchy or even selfishness, well maybe it is just a bit.  Frankly, I’m younger everyday thanks to the wise beyond their years perspectives on life that my millennials bring into our home.

For some additional support of this generation, take a look at Wally Bock’s recent posting: “Don’t Worry About the Young People.”

Now, I’ve got to quit typing.  The gym is waiting.  And hmmm, I wonder if my wife would like me with a tattoo?

Bad Bosses, A Walk with Dante and Your Leadership Legacy

Thankfully, the human brain does a pretty good job of managing memories by helping us smooth out the bad times and enhance the good.  This seems to work pretty well for a lot of things in life, with one major exception being our memories of lousy leaders that tormented us at some point in our career.

Ask a room full of mid-level managers to talk about great leaders that have supported them and you get a few nice stories.  Ask them for examples of bad leaders and bad leadership practices and you may have to run for high-ground as the trickle of mildly repressed memories turns into a torrent of frightening anecdotes described by individuals with a far-away look in their eyes and a tone tinged with revenge in their voices.

OK, I may be exaggerating a bit on the glazed eyes and revenge stuff, but not a bit on the ease with which people can describe being victimized by bad bosses.  The stories of micromanaging, verbally abusing, backstabbing, credit taking, time wasting and endless pontificating flow freely and are told with gusto.  One story begets another and pretty soon you have a room full of people trying to out do each other with, "you think that's bad, I had a manager that… "  Unfortunately, there's a lot of material for bad boss stories.

I've often imagined inserting an additional section to the manuscript of Dante's Inferno where the poet Virgil and Dante upon journeying through the circles of hell come upon a special place reserved solely for evil managers, probably between Circle 5 and Circle 6.  I'll leave it to your imagination to work out what the appropriate punishment would be in this guaranteed blockbuster of a re-release of this literary classic.  I can see the caption now…Leadership Lessons from the Inferno!  Remember, you heard it here.

If you find yourself embarking on or immersed in a role in leading others, you have a distinct choice to make about the impact you will have on those fortunate or unfortunate enough to serve with you.  You can add to the inventory of "bad boss" stories by focusing on yourself, not understanding what your true role is and doing everything possible to build your career on the backs of others.  Or you can take the much harder, but ultimately more rewarding path of doing the right things all of the time for the people in your care. 

Some suggestions to build a leadership legacy that ensure you don't end up as fodder for more bad boss stories or find you in a conversation with Dante and Virgil during one of their strolls:

  • Get to know the people that work for you.  Your effort to pay attention and show genuine interest is a show of respect for your associates.  Learn names, learn the names of their spouses and children, and pay attention to the pictures and personal mementos on their desks.
  • Listen more than you talk.  Two ears, one mouth…use them in proportion.  Take the time for formal and informal discussions where you ask for input, feedback and ideas.  Bad managers think that they are being paid to generate the best ideas.  Effective leaders understand that their people are the source of the best ideas and they work hard to create forums for those ideas to be uncovered and developed.
  • Dispense credit liberally.  Never ever take credit that belongs to someone else.
  • Ensure that your actions match your words.  We all know that words are cheap.  If you want people to commit to you and your vision, you've got to show that you are committed.  One leader suggested that, "The Say and the Do" have to match.
  • Know when to stay out of the way.  If you've done your job in picking people, creating the right working atmosphere and providing general direction, it's time to get out of the way and let people work. 
  • Everyone respects accountability.   Enforce it fairly, evenly and consistently.  No exceptions.
  • The only finger pointing you should ever do is at yourself.  Back your people, recognize that you are responsible for their results and if the results come up short, it is your fault, not theirs. 
  • Keep your agenda visible.  People sense when someone has a different or personal agenda.  Don't let this be an issue.  Your agenda is your team, your company and achieving goals.

The bottom-line for now:

Every time I feel like we're making some headway on stamping out bad bosses, I run into another group of great professionals that remind me that too many of our managerial experiences are lousy.  Effective managers and leaders are made one person at a time, and every one of us makes a choice every day to do it right or not.  What will your legacy be? 

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