Comments on: Leadership Caffeine-Does Your Do Match Your Tell? http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/ Leadership, Management and Professional Development Mon, 21 May 2012 11:19:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Paul Roemer http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10783 Paul Roemer Tue, 22 Sep 2009 17:13:42 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10783 Walk the talk, love it. Walk the talk, love it.

]]> By: Steve J http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10728 Steve J Mon, 21 Sep 2009 17:05:33 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10728 Great post, very, very true and astonishing how little it is understood by most in leadership positions. Great comments as well, trust by the team of the leader is so hard to win and so very easy to lose. Without trust you might get compliance but you will never have leadership of an organization. We all lead by example, the only question is what kind of example are you going to set today and every day after? Great post, very, very true and astonishing how little it is understood by most in leadership positions. Great comments as well, trust by the team of the leader is so hard to win and so very easy to lose. Without trust you might get compliance but you will never have leadership of an organization. We all lead by example, the only question is what kind of example are you going to set today and every day after?

]]> By: Pete Scully http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10611 Pete Scully Sat, 19 Sep 2009 11:54:38 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10611 Art, Great article, that is relevant for Leaders at all levels of an organization. To boil it down to closing the gaps between actions and words is a simple but effective way of communicating the message about the importance of Integrity to Leadership. Well done! Pete Art,

Great article, that is relevant for Leaders at all levels of an organization. To boil it down to closing the gaps between actions and words is a simple but effective way of communicating the message about the importance of Integrity to Leadership.

Well done!

Pete

]]> By: Elaine Hirt http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10448 Elaine Hirt Thu, 17 Sep 2009 03:56:01 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10448 Thank you Art for your kind words. That makes me smile. And a big thank you to Landmark Education for teaching me how vital my word is to my relationships and my working well. Elaine Thank you Art for your kind words. That makes me smile.

And a big thank you to Landmark Education for teaching me how vital my word is to my relationships and my working well.

Elaine

]]> By: Wally Bock http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10423 Wally Bock Wed, 16 Sep 2009 19:55:20 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10423 Congratulations! This post was selected as one of the five best independent business blog posts of the week in my Three Star Leadership Midweek Review of the Business Blogs. http://blog.threestarleadership.com/2009/09/16/91609-midweek-look-at-the-independent-business-blogs.aspx Wally Bock Congratulations! This post was selected as one of the five best independent business blog posts of the week in my Three Star Leadership Midweek Review of the Business Blogs.

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Wally Bock

]]> By: Three Star Leadership Blog http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10422 Three Star Leadership Blog Wed, 16 Sep 2009 19:28:43 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10422 <strong>9/16/09: Midweek Look at the Independent Business Blogs...</strong> Every week I select five excellent posts from this week's independent business blogs. This week, I'm pointing you to posts on Dan Pink's TED talk, going one more step for innovation, systemic thinking and why you need it, leading by saying no, and w... 9/16/09: Midweek Look at the Independent Business Blogs…

Every week I select five excellent posts from this week’s independent business blogs. This week, I’m pointing you to posts on Dan Pink’s TED talk, going one more step for innovation, systemic thinking and why you need it, leading by saying no, and w…

]]> By: Art Petty http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10403 Art Petty Wed, 16 Sep 2009 15:00:16 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10403 Elaine, I wish I would have said it as eloquently and passionately as you! Thanks. -Art Elaine, I wish I would have said it as eloquently and passionately as you! Thanks. -Art

]]> By: Elaine Hirt http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10338 Elaine Hirt Tue, 15 Sep 2009 21:39:52 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10338 Art--When Bret Simmons asked us in our first class, "What do you want?" I replied, "I want people to be straight." Bret said, "Wow! You want a lot. I'll be straight with you." He asked what I wanted. So I went for The Big One. Integrity is so HUGE. Our word is all we have in life regardless if it is in the workplace, at home, at school, at church, at the store. It doesn't matter where you are...if your words don't match your actions; if your relationships are breaking down, check your integrity. If your integrity is out, clean it up. Be responsible for your words not matching your actions. This restores integrity. Integrity makes relationships work. No integrity. No workability. No relationship. This applies to everyone, not just leaders. Thank you for bringing up a very integral subject to working relationships. It is very much appreciated! Respectfully, Elaine Art–When Bret Simmons asked us in our first class, “What do you want?” I replied, “I want people to be straight.” Bret said, “Wow! You want a lot. I’ll be straight with you.” He asked what I wanted. So I went for The Big One.

Integrity is so HUGE. Our word is all we have in life regardless if it is in the workplace, at home, at school, at church, at the store. It doesn’t matter where you are…if your words don’t match your actions; if your relationships are breaking down, check your integrity. If your integrity is out, clean it up. Be responsible for your words not matching your actions. This restores integrity.

Integrity makes relationships work. No integrity. No workability. No relationship.

This applies to everyone, not just leaders.
Thank you for bringing up a very integral subject to working relationships. It is very much appreciated!
Respectfully,
Elaine

]]> By: Art Petty http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10314 Art Petty Tue, 15 Sep 2009 11:55:30 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10314 Thanks to all for your comments! Loren, I like the "less can be more" reminder. Thanks. Nick, excellent reminder that the leader is always "on the job." Steven, some good wisdom as always...especially on the "environment." Wally, your Supervisors Support Kit is a must for people in that role looking for great guidance and action oriented suggestions. Mark,I love the "shadow of a leader" statement/imagery. Thanks! Mark C. , thanks for sharing your powerful examples. The visual of a supervisor preaching civility and then doing the opposite is powerful...and sad. And I agree w. you on the accountability topic. And Becky, thanks for mostly agreeing! : ) I'll opt for mostly the negative on the "rebuild" issue. Thanks to all! Art Thanks to all for your comments!

Loren, I like the “less can be more” reminder. Thanks.

Nick, excellent reminder that the leader is always “on the job.”

Steven, some good wisdom as always…especially on the “environment.”

Wally, your Supervisors Support Kit is a must for people in that role looking for great guidance and action oriented suggestions.

Mark,I love the “shadow of a leader” statement/imagery. Thanks!

Mark C. , thanks for sharing your powerful examples. The visual of a supervisor preaching civility and then doing the opposite is powerful…and sad. And I agree w. you on the accountability topic.

And Becky, thanks for mostly agreeing! : ) I’ll opt for mostly the negative on the “rebuild” issue.

Thanks to all!

Art

]]> By: Becky Robinson http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10309 Becky Robinson Tue, 15 Sep 2009 10:24:00 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10309 Another great post, Art. About your idea that everyone is watching until you lose your credibility, and then you're done as a leader in their eyes. I agree with you -- mostly -- of course, it is important for your actions to meet up with your words. If you say you are going to do something -- do it! I also think that humble leaders who admit their mistakes can rebuild credibility and influence. Another great post, Art. About your idea that everyone is watching until you lose your credibility, and then you’re done as a leader in their eyes. I agree with you — mostly — of course, it is important for your actions to meet up with your words. If you say you are going to do something — do it! I also think that humble leaders who admit their mistakes can rebuild credibility and influence.

]]> By: Mark D. Cohen http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10280 Mark D. Cohen Mon, 14 Sep 2009 22:06:29 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10280 Art, Great article on the pitfalls to avoid in order to become a credible leader. I have had a supervisor instruct us to be civil at all times while constantly shouting at us when we make mistakes. Her credibility was lost immediately by everyone, and we shifted into "compliance" mode. In my opinion, the most important opportunity you mention is "Issues of Accountability." When a leader stresses that something is important, but does not enforce consequences for failures in that specific issue, all credibility as a leader is lost. Furthermore, "Take Risks, Be Bold, and Learn from Mistakes" holds special significance for me because I have had supervisors quash any attempts at improving inefficient and poor-running systems. In addition, it is hard to learn from mistakes when a supervisor yells at you instead of advising you how to improve. Very helpful article. -Mark Art,

Great article on the pitfalls to avoid in order to become a credible leader. I have had a supervisor instruct us to be civil at all times while constantly shouting at us when we make mistakes. Her credibility was lost immediately by everyone, and we shifted into “compliance” mode.

In my opinion, the most important opportunity you mention is “Issues of Accountability.” When a leader stresses that something is important, but does not enforce consequences for failures in that specific issue, all credibility as a leader is lost.

Furthermore, “Take Risks, Be Bold, and Learn from Mistakes” holds special significance for me because I have had supervisors quash any attempts at improving inefficient and poor-running systems. In addition, it is hard to learn from mistakes when a supervisor yells at you instead of advising you how to improve.

Very helpful article.

-Mark

]]> By: Wally Bock http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10277 Wally Bock Mon, 14 Sep 2009 20:52:11 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10277 In my Working Supervisor's Support Kit and elsewhere, beat on this drum, Art. If your words and actions match, you build trust. That includes keeping your commitments. But if you've got a mismatch, two things happen. First, people will believe what you do, not what you say. And, second, the level of trust you might have had drops like a stone. In my Working Supervisor’s Support Kit and elsewhere, beat on this drum, Art. If your words and actions match, you build trust. That includes keeping your commitments. But if you’ve got a mismatch, two things happen. First, people will believe what you do, not what you say. And, second, the level of trust you might have had drops like a stone.

]]> By: Mark Allen Roberts http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10275 Mark Allen Roberts Mon, 14 Sep 2009 20:26:05 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10275 Great content, Enjoyed the "tell" ... (Note to self, no poker with Art Petty.) I have also heard it refered to as the "shadow" a leader casts. Often your actions speak so loud I can't hear what you are saying, or asking me to do. Mark Allen Roberts Great content,

Enjoyed the “tell” …

(Note to self, no poker with Art Petty.)

I have also heard it refered to as the “shadow” a leader casts. Often your actions speak so loud I can’t hear what you are saying, or asking me to do.

Mark Allen Roberts

]]> By: Steven M. Smith http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10273 Steven M. Smith Mon, 14 Sep 2009 19:31:47 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10273 Art, The post starts with reference to the "words of a leader." I'm struggling with the word "tell" in this post. It seems to be a popular word in leadership circles. And its popularity bothers me. I agree with you about the importance of leaders following through on the their words with corresponding actions. The leaders words don't have to be the elements of a lecture (tell) though -- they can be the elements of a conversation (discuss). And even better when he words are elements of an agreement (negotiation) made between the members of a team. I think the it's catchy to say, "The do must match the tell." I think it's powerful to say, "Our actions must flow and follow from our agreements." A leader who believe agreement isn't necessary creates an environment where their followers' actions may deviate from the leader's desires (words) whenever a follower has a different desire and they are free to choose. Leadership is about creating an environment where the words and actions of every member of the team harmonize and move in the right direction. IME, that happens better through conversation and agreements rather than lectures and rules. Art, The post starts with reference to the “words of a leader.” I’m struggling with the word “tell” in this post. It seems to be a popular word in leadership circles. And its popularity bothers me.

I agree with you about the importance of leaders following through on the their words with corresponding actions. The leaders words don’t have to be the elements of a lecture (tell) though — they can be the elements of a conversation (discuss). And even better when he words are elements of an agreement (negotiation) made between the members of a team.

I think the it’s catchy to say, “The do must match the tell.” I think it’s powerful to say, “Our actions must flow and follow from our agreements.”

A leader who believe agreement isn’t necessary creates an environment where their followers’ actions may deviate from the leader’s desires (words) whenever a follower has a different desire and they are free to choose.

Leadership is about creating an environment where the words and actions of every member of the team harmonize and move in the right direction. IME, that happens better through conversation and agreements rather than lectures and rules.

]]> By: Nick Halen http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10270 Nick Halen Mon, 14 Sep 2009 19:21:34 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10270 Art, As a leader you are always under the radar. The hard part about always being under the radar is the job of being a leader that does what he says never ends. When I am at work it is obviously way important to practice what you preach, but it is also important to practice when you are not at work. Not only do people never stop judging you or stop watching you, but I have found that you have to train yourself at all times in order for it to come naturally. I think this was a great reminder of how a leader should handle them self. Nick Art,
As a leader you are always under the radar. The hard part about always being under the radar is the job of being a leader that does what he says never ends. When I am at work it is obviously way important to practice what you preach, but it is also important to practice when you are not at work. Not only do people never stop judging you or stop watching you, but I have found that you have to train yourself at all times in order for it to come naturally. I think this was a great reminder of how a leader should handle them self.

Nick

]]> By: Loren Loiseau http://artpetty.com/2009/09/13/leadership-caffeine-does-your-do-match-your-tell/#comment-10269 Loren Loiseau Mon, 14 Sep 2009 19:05:30 +0000 http://artpetty.com/?p=2465#comment-10269 Nice article and I am glad you are sounding out on leadership. Business needs this continual drumbeat towards honest, ethical and effecctive leadership skills. One thing to add: remember that less can be more. It is tempting as a leader to constantly remind folks of many issues rather than focusing on a few. When a leader focus on more issues, they set themselves up for some of the traps you mention in your article. Nice article and I am glad you are sounding out on leadership. Business needs this continual drumbeat towards honest, ethical and effecctive leadership skills.

One thing to add: remember that less can be more. It is tempting as a leader to constantly remind folks of many issues rather than focusing on a few. When a leader focus on more issues, they set themselves up for some of the traps you mention in your article.

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